Far from Easy.....

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A while back {around the time I had Ella and was dealing with the ups & downs, the ins & outs of becoming a Mother} I asked another Mother if she was finding it any easier {being a Parent} the second time around? She responded in saying that she had found both babies, both children, both experiences VERY easy! At the moment in time, I thought...."Wow...she has it all sussed! She is the perfect Mum! What's her secret?"

I was then left thinking......Yikes, What am I doing wrong to be finding this role of being a Parent....quite hard! And, I'll be honest.....Being a MUMMY is the hardest thing I have ever done & will ever do... in my life! And I'm sure of that!

Don't get me wrong....I'm not saying hard as in 'negative, it's a drag, i'm miserable & struggling' kind of hard....I mean "tiring, heartbreaking, analytically, worryingly, anxiously, so-much-to-do" hard!! Does that make sense? LOL!

And in saying all that....I absolutely LOVE being a Mum! It is the BEST, most rewarding, most magical, funnest & most amazing thing in my life! Being Ella's Mummy is where I'm most comfortable, where I'm happiest & where I'm most happy just being ME!

But, thinking back to that comment made by that Mother has got me thinking again.....I really don't think Parenting can possibly ever be easy!!! Can it? To me....easy means: no stress, things just happen, no plans or organisation is needed, no routine, no fuss, no work, no tears, no tense moments, no cleaning, no appointments, no milestones, no responsibility, no consequences, no tragedies, no sleep lost! Therefore....to me...Parenting could NEVER be easy!

I believe it can be made EASIER ~ With a positive outlook, a calm nature, an educated mind, a loving heart, a warm approach, a structured routine, a happy family, an open-mind, a good sense of humour, a network of fabulous friends & helpful family and a feeling of confidence!

With all these things, I think Parenting can be EASIER....but not easy! What do you think?

Having Ella enter our life has definitely enriched it! I always hear people say "they can't imagine their life without their kids once they've had them!" And that is so true! I feel ill imagining a world without Ella! She has become our EVERYTHING!!! She is a pure delight! But she has also had her fair share of 'hard moments' {like most babies & children I assume} from fussiness, to people anxiety, to illnesses, to clingyness, to night terrors, to MANY sleep-less nights, to un-explained crying fits, to toddler tantrums, to injuries....you get the gist!?

Surely, Where there is love, where there is a bond, where there is committment & where there is responsibility! There HAS to be some sort of 'hard times', heart strings being strung, tears being shed, grey hairs growing & worry lines appearing!!

So....I believe..... being a Mother is the most amazing, loving & magical blessing I could ever experience! But it is FAR from EASY!